Monday, 1 June 2009

Of books and people...and life..

We always pride ourselves to be very social people..We meet people,make friends wherever we go, build relationships ,some that last a lifetime and some that die when the night is over.But there are some relations in life ,that never go out of sync,no matter which part of your life have you stored them.
As I was looking for an old book in my bookshelf last night and flipping through its worn out pages,is when I realized that our life too is so similar.
We tend to buy every good book that hits the market(or atleast I do!),we read the book,are completely lost during the course of it,never letting go of a single page and engrossed till the end.During that phase,each page is important and the wait to read another one endless.for those few days,that one book revolves around your mind all the time.If it is good,it comes in the last of “My favorites” and if not,its ready to be stored in some back shelf of the book rack.
With the passing life,the process continues,our choices change and so does our mindset.new books take the place of the old ones and so on and so forth.Life goes on and we tend to get busy with the complexities of it.

But,we fail to see that the books that we collected through the course are still there on the shelf,stacked and a rusted few, in a hope that we might just want to have a look at them again;and there are times when we do,probably to read our favorite chapter,or in a need to revisit some lovely memories.But when we do,we realize that we let a lot of time slip away before deciding to look back..
Some times,we tend to get so busy with the events in our lives,that we tend to forget the people who we have left behind in the flow.The people who stayed by our side when we needed them the most and the same people you forgot in your due course of life.
Some times I wonder how selfish we humans are.We need people to be around us during our bad times,but when the time is for us to do the same,we get overtly entwined in our own set of problems.
How often do all of us feel trapped in our own shadows,our own ghosts.How often do we feel that there was a time when we never had to think before we poured our heart to the same friend,with who carrying a conversation for more than five minutes now seems like task.How was it when each phone call was important,and how is it now that the number of missed calls is always higher that the dialed calls.

I feel so;Today as I look back ,I feel terrible.Terrible for having let my closest people slip away,for being so selfish and for being so lost in my own issues and problems,that I forgot about the people who mattered.people who cared and people who silently walked each chapter of my life,even when I was busy reading the newer ones.
And its so weird to see that when a whole night was very little to finish the talks,is now restricted to a basic how are you doing.What was once a careless banter,has now turned into an occasional difficult call.
And so,I am on a path now,from where I need to carve my way back,to reach out to the people who I had somehow forgotten in this journey of my life.People who were nice,and people who were bad,people who loved me,and people who I loved back,people who mattered and people who cared and some of them who simply made a difference in my life by just being there. Its never too late to start from where you left,and from today,I will do just what I used to do back in those years,when world really was a beautiful place….

I don’t know how many people may relate to my thoughts,but the ones who do,make sure you make that phone call today,and make sure who let the people know on how they really made a difference in your life by just being there..Say anything that you have been meaning to say for long,but haven’t been able to for reasons as simple as not getting the time.Take out time,and open up your heart…
Sometimes ,its a conversation that could have ended everything…but sometimes its just a conversation that will begin a new chapter in your life…

24 comments:

Anonymous said...

Beautiful !! and sooo very true ..

chirpy-paaro said...

how true...so madam did u realise we last talked on ur bday!!! gimme a call soon!!! :P

santasizing...Fantasizing said...

@Bhargavi:-Thanks:)

santasizing...Fantasizing said...

@Paro:-Oye..too much...im calling u soon:D...waise bhi d day is around the corner:D..
and have u forgotten the amount of bakwaas we do on gtalk everyday!!!!tu to mat bol!!!

Aniket said...

So very true indeed. Apart from a handful with whom I stay in touch with over mails, I rarely get around to talk to those old friends who did stick around during bad times.

Okay, enough blabbering. Now am off to make those calls. :D

Chronicwriter said...

i guess i was in the same emotional wavelength like you when i wrote my today's post..

i now wanna read some calvin hobbes.. me off to my shelf

now

chriz

santasizing...Fantasizing said...

@Chriz:- I did make that out from your post...and hence I propped the question...well ok dont run your mind now!!!:D
Hope Calvin n Hobbes gets u off the mood:)

Mayz said...

u got me thinkin...vy well said...loved d analogy

i need to wipe d dust off ol relationships too

vimmuuu said...

Lovely post!! But I just cant relate to it. I guess Im still in touch with them, atleast most of them. Thanks to Orkut and the chats, its easier now to stay in touch with the long distance ones. and buddy, you should see my phone bills to believe me !! :D

santasizing...Fantasizing said...

@Mayz:-:)...all d best:)

santasizing...Fantasizing said...

@Vimuuu:-Well...glad u liked it...and i must say u r very lucky to have done so...i couldnt...like i said for a while i had forgotten some basic things of life:)
welcome to the blog

Pari said...

Continuing the book analogy... if I haven't read one of my favourites in a while, I can almost feel it calling out to me! That's how it is with my closest friends too. :)

santasizing...Fantasizing said...

Pari:-I agree:)good thought:)

Shaunak said...

Very true, and to be honest, some thoughts that I definitely can relate to. But sometimes, things just drift apart, and we are so entwined in our present problems that we fail to see that.
But on the flip side, people change with time and distance. Someone you may have spoken to for hours at end may be difficult to talk to today simply because there's so little in common now.
Gets pretty difficult sometimes.

Nice post! :)

Adisha said...

I just loved the relation you brought about between books and well... relations :)

It's so true, that everyone and everything that we touch over time sometimes gets lost in the course of time.

I'm on the other end of the spectrum though. I try to keep in touch with all those that have meant something special to me, but sometimes people just grow apart and time tends to fade away the feelings that were once there ... no matter how hard to try to hold onto them ...

Sigh !! Which is why I only collect books that I totally Love for they never disappoint :D hehehe

You've made me nostalgic... Glad I visited here ...

santasizing...Fantasizing said...

@Shaunak:-I agree with you...when I wrote this,i only considered my bookshelf...and not the others' who I am a part of myself...Its life...and sadly..its like this:)

santasizing...Fantasizing said...

@Adisha:-Welcome to the blog...and than you for the lovely comments:)
Like I said to Shaunak...its all a part of life...some time u are at the recieving end..and sometimes the others...but since I know how it is to be at the recieving end of it,I can probably relate more to the things that I might have done to others:)

Pesto Sauce said...

Once in primary school I read somewhere "As you go through life take time out to smell the flowers"

Only now I understand what it actually meant

darklordreturns said...

Very nicely put... the analogy of books and the way people go about relationships! I think people tend to delve too much into the future... Of course, thats important, but one must also live the present...take time off to live life for the moment..not always maybe in a bashful way but one can certainly be contemplative.. or take pleasure in what they already possess... the numerous and tangled web of relationships around them.. I guess life would be more balanced then!

santasizing...Fantasizing said...

@Pesto sauce:-i liked what you said:)

santasizing...Fantasizing said...

@darklordreturns:-I totally agree with what you say...its important to keep your past and present together and learn to strike a balance,,,:)
welcome to the blog

santasizing...Fantasizing said...

@Aniket:-Im so sorry....wonder how my reply to your comment got deleted:(...
i hope u made those calls:)

Aniket said...

I did. :)

santasizing...Fantasizing said...

@Aniket:-I am glad:)