Tuesday, 7 July 2009

Just...a thought

I have again been attacked by the writer's block and was thinking that I wouldn't be able to write for some time;But such is life,things do happen when u least expect them to.

Had a terrible start to the day where I stuck my foot in the bathroom door and the damn thing still hurts.Somehow got dressed for work to realize that i wasn't fitting into my favorite shirt all of a sudden;Grumpy and grouchy left for work only to be stuck in a hour long traffic jam.
Finally on reaching office,when i was struggling hard to gain my sensibilities,i had a major fight with one of my closest friends.And for the first time in 4 years,we both raised our voices and yelled and shouted at each other.
I feel terrible ever since.I shouldn't have said all the bad things I did...but at the same time I feel that the same holds true for him.
The trouble with friends of opposite sex is that the perspectives of fights change for the two people.While the men show their anger by keeping quiet,we women tend to be more expressive and loud.
So,while my talking too much pissed him off,his keeping quiet did the job for me.
I am so miffed,and irritated yet I don't know how to correct this situation.There are times when u know its not your fault,and u know that u stand correct,but tend to change your judgment for others' happiness..
But this time I don't wish to do it.How many times can we go on losing ourselves and our thoughts to keep others happy?Shouldn't the same thing hold true for others too?
Why can't friends stop being judgmental and take you the way you are?Why do some people expect you to change for them when ideally a true friend should accept you the way u are and still love you?Why do people expect you to be sensitive to their emotions while they don't do the same to you?Why do people dislike it when you decide to stand up to your thoughts against them,when they were the ones who taught you to do so?
So many questions in my mind and none that I have answer to..
I just know that I don't want to lose a good friend to an ego clash;that's the worst death a friendship can suffer.:(

36 comments:

akashthematrix said...

Oh Oh Oh...luks like I m losing on a lot of action on this blog of urs which I always love to follow...Will b catching up wid all the posts soon...

Meanwhile on this one, I wud say situations like these do appear and thoughts like these pass ur mind whenever u hav a fight like this...Ego hurts n leads to disaster...

But sometimes, leaving the decision to destiny n believing that a friend will come back if he is true friend is also fine...

But the only catch is, one should not let this coldwar go on for a long time...n thats wat experience says :)

So Guys, PATCH UP...asap!!!

PS: M sure ur frend is ur blog regular...n he knws wat u r going thru... :)

chirpy-paaro said...

oye moti...dont worry re... we tend to fight like this once in a while..this just shows that u guys are great frenz...he will surely talk to you in sometime..itne bade bade shehron mein aisi choti choti baatein hoti rehati hai... :))

And madam... I think u need to design a house where there are no gates...and where required they are made of cotton or something...U hurt yourself so much!!!

santasizing...Fantasizing said...

@Akash:-Welcome back buddy....its been long yes...and i sure do expect ur reactions on my posts:)...so start now...
For this instance...it sure feels bad...and its not that i havent tried to call and apologise...but the fellow on that side is a stubborn wreck...:(
sadly hes not even a blogger:)

santasizing...Fantasizing said...

@Paro:-yeah...u know about it all...but just feels bad yaar...inna kinna nautanki...:(..
about about the house without gates...ur right...i need to do that...:(..its become a everyday nuisance...and if nothing else happens,Rufus puts his paws on me to kill me:(
sigh

Varun said...

I hate that period when I fight with my friends. In my case, I am usually the one who sorts the issue every single time even when I know I was not wrong. It all depends on how much that person you fought with matters to you. I know it holds good for the other person too but then when you know that he would probably never take the initiative it is up to you to do the patch work. Easiest way would be to send an sms or email saying that you guys would not discuss about the matter you fought about ever again and move on...I personally can't talk and sort matters out. Writing is so much easier :D

Varun said...

And take care of that leg. Lighting never strikes the same place twice but doors and tables does :)

Mayz said...

hmmm looks like someone woke up on d wrong side of bed...

we all have bad days...we all have fights...n no one to give any kinda advice on such situations but wud like to share a learnin...

we only fight n remain angry wid ppl whom v really love...so if it bothers u jus proves ur frenship is still vy strong :)

hugzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz!!

Mayz said...

@paaro

dont call her moti :o :o

shez not!!!

chirpy-paaro said...

@Mayz: Does my name Paro means I am paro from Devdas???
I know her since 8 years...i guess i will always call her moti even if she is size zero!!!

Adisha said...

That's too bad. Yes, sometimes, it's important to stand your ground but then there are ways to let your friend know that you both can agree to disagree as well. Fights can be horrid, but sometimes a reconciliation don't really mean that you say sorry or go back on ur words...

A friendship ends only when You let go of it. No effort to keep a friendship together will ever go unrewarded ...

akashthematrix said...

@Devdas ki Paro:

U knw her frm 8 years, does that mean she was fat earlier???

Hmmmmmmmmmmm!!!

santasizing...Fantasizing said...

@varun:-Yes I know what you are trying to say...but somehow today I feel very sad....because this is not the first time that that person has said nasty things to me...and this time too...hes repeated his earlier words:(
but i still messaged him back...and so far i havent recieved a reply...

santasizing...Fantasizing said...

@Varun:-On your advice for taking care...believe me..i have been trying for a lot of time...but me and accidents go hand in hand:)

santasizing...Fantasizing said...

@Mayz:-awwwwwwwwwwwwwww...u made me smile...like u always do:)
i know i guess it was just a bad day:(

santasizing...Fantasizing said...

@MAyz:-Thankings for believing that iam not fat....:D
(((((((((((((((hugzzz))))))))))))))

santasizing...Fantasizing said...

@Paro:-Teehee....but u just complimented me yesterday:D:D:D

santasizing...Fantasizing said...

@Adisha:-Yes you are right....i am holding on...and i know my friend will get back to me:)

santasizing...Fantasizing said...

@Akash:-and was that a compliment or a comment?hmmmmmmmmmm!!!

Varun said...

You have done your part. If he doesn't reply don't try again. There are lot of other better people in this world...

Aniket said...

I had many such fights with my best friend. We always ended up not talking to each other for couple of days till she or I said "Kab tak baat nahi karni hai? Kabhi nahi karni to abhi bata de..." And then we laughed it off. :D

She is still my best pal since Class 10th.

Hope you guys find end up the same. Am sure you'll be laughing it off in a couple of days.

If he really is a good friend don't let your friendship suffer over ego. Waiting for too long tarnishes things and then they are never normal again.

So take Rufus to a walk. Listen to you fav. song. Wear a shirt you easily fit in. And then when you are in a totally good mood go and talk to him.

About writers block. Tell me about it. I can't put an "r" next to a "w" when I try to wirte. Its that bad.

Amal Bose said...

i think u shd stand ur ground if u r sure that u r right..
but dont worry.. it will all be sorted out soon..

Chriz said...

at times like this, play with rufus.. and post his pictures on ur blog.. he is the man

ScarletTd1ar1es said...

well you put it all out right there. you know whats important and in a relationship, of any sort that is what is important.
fights happen all the time. dun worry.

take care. i cant afford to lose my best reader. :P

:)

santasizing...Fantasizing said...

@Varun:-I wish it was that easy:)

santasizing...Fantasizing said...

@Aniket:-Oh yes ur right...probably its the case when u know come one too well...Vin wants me to apologise but i somehow cant find enough reasons to do so...
we have been just like u n ur friend are...but dont know why is baar we fought like mads...im trying to find out reasons as to why this really happened:(
about Rufus...yes he works as a magic mantra:)

santasizing...Fantasizing said...

@Chriz:-awweeeeeeeeeeeeeee..u brought a big grin to my face:D
Rufus is the man!

santasizing...Fantasizing said...

@Scarlet:-Thanks for the sweet words:)..i feel great hearing them:)
and yes i hope for this fight to get over too:)

Anonymous said...

I'm not being judgemental or anything, neither do i know what went between you two but just want to say that many a time we make our friends compromise on certain issues we don't think about. Our friends do those things to make us happy without letting us know about them or if it made them unhappy. So, please don't think like this ...

"How many times can we go on losing ourselves and our thoughts to keep others happy?Shouldn't the same thing hold true for others too?"

it holds true for others as well and they do lose themselves to keep us happy..just that we don't realise it...
Cheers...

Anand said...

Why can't friends stop being judgmental and take you the way you are? :-) :-)

People can be quite judgmental, can't they? Jus one of those things.
On the other hand...ur judging them too. lol.

I liked ur post. Expect me back. :-)

santasizing...Fantasizing said...

@Anonymous:-Yes..ur right..some people are way too precious to be lost..
i can never thank god enough for giving such people to me...
im hoping that we can come back to each other soonly...life seems strange with friends missing in it

santasizing...Fantasizing said...

@anand:-Thanks for visiting my blog..and Welcome:)
being judgmental,isnt that the problem with all of us humans??
:)
im working on resolving it:)

santasizing...Fantasizing said...

@Amal:-Yes...Amen:)

Chriz said...

and its a long time too

santasizing...Fantasizing said...

@Chriz:-Yes I know...and so I posted

ani_aset said...

I know, and i myself use silence...as effectively :)

I hope you get back together soon with this friend

santasizing...Fantasizing said...

ani:-yes we are back...to where were:)..it sure does feel good:)